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How many times have you wanted to change a behavior but found it too difficult and got discouraged? Perhaps you quit, or you tell yourself it’s not important or it doesn’t really matter. Behaviorists have suggested using a “trap” to make changes in our lives. We can take a lesson from Trapper Dan: 1)    Identify your prey—what personal/social areas do you need the most help with? Be sure to target behaviors that are relevant, functional, and that lend themselves to frequent practice opportunities. 2)    Find... View Article

You are a GIVER! Well, at least at our core we are made to give. We have a natural ability to give to each other. In fact, scientist has demonstrated that giving actually produces positive changes in our body chemistry. We really didn’t need a study to tell us that, because we can all feel that positive feeling when we do give to others. However, there is usually an exception to the rule and that is when we are “enabling.” When giving hurts, it is... View Article

Loved Based or Fear Based? When we’re asked that question, it can be immediately sobering because we have to go inward to assess before we can answer. At times, so much of our life is in “auto pilot,” and before we can answer that question accurately, we must do a “check-in.” So, “check-in” right now. If you have been coming from a fear based perspective, you will, of course, have a feeling of anxiety or anger, sadness, or even numbness. Keep in mind–it isn’t easy... View Article